Three Keys To Unlock Your Child’s Self Worth
At Skills4Parents we provide education support and advice for parents and online maths tutoring. We have core values that underpin every piece of advice, and all of the work that we do. Our core value is individuality, and from this we have 4 other values of self-esteem, self-worth, self-belief and self-confidence.
Today Liz, founder of Skills4Parents, takes a look at self-worth. You can find out more about Liz here. Self- worth is an internal sense of our value, which sometimes gets confused with self esteem, which results from external factors. The two are linked because we may not see the internal sense of worth unless we have a deep sense of who we are, and this can come from the situations we find ourselves in.
School can be a competitive place, and when I was teaching (and now whilst tutoring online maths), many young people do not feel their value because they compare themselves to others, and they need support to realise what they are worth. We can put things in place to guide our children towards having a stronger sense of self worth through these 3 key ways.
Help them understand themselves
In order to build self-worth your child needs to know who they are. I suggest that you help them consider their learning styles because this gives a model to get to know the way they work and what is best for them. There are three learning styles which I recommend looking at, because each one gives different aspects and so they get a holistic view of themselves. VARK, Dunn and Dunn, and Honey and Mumford.
You can get my free VARK questionnaire to begin your child on this journey, or for a guide giving you the tools to work out where your child is in all three models, get my guide to learning styles here:
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A Guide to Learning Styles This 27 page downloadable book explains three learning styles to help you understand your young person and how to work with them. Included are: questionnaires to identify your young person's preferences explanation of each preference strategies to use in the classroom and at home revision techniques for each style suggestions for types of courses post-16
£7.99
Self-acceptance
Comparisons to others, comments by teachers, or even predicted grades can mean that our children don’t accept themselves. We need to help them OWN their self-worth. Show them that they have value whatever their ability, and help them to bring this quote into reality.
It can be helpful to value all education pathways, to celebrate what they are good at, and to accept them for they are. With self-esteem and self-worth being linked you can use these worksheets as a way of supporting them with this.
Tell them their value
How often do you tell your child their value? Are your conversations about how annoying they are or about the thing that you love about them? Yes it’s cringy and they might not like it and feel embarrassed, but don’t be afraid to say that you love how they speak to other people, how they sing to you, or just their smile. Help them see the value that they give to the world and amplify it.
If you need individual support from Liz, book a 15-minute education advice call.